(1) Love is devoted patience... like hong*'s gramp who would travel distances and repeat the same sentences over and again when her grandma cannot hear. Not grunting in impatience.
(2) Love is being supportive in action (even when perplexed).... like beng* not understanding why hong* feels down about not having lunch kakis, and yet drives down from east to west just to be a company and support. Not protesting she is nutsy.
(3) Love is gentle respect... like rich gal Ching* who talks to her less accomplished husband in meekness. Not turning haughty at the least of any achievement.
(4) Love is putting another above my own desires... like I am careful not to be an inconvenience to another. Not harping on extra miles taken. (yes, I am learning & trying to love with concrete action)
(5) Love is forbearance & chivalry... like ALow* walking with his wife to the train station early every morning so that he gets to spend time with her even though that means he will reach work an hour early. Not emphasizing that special efforts was made.
(6) Love is thorough honesty... like TAw* telling his wife every little detail. Not hiding nor seeing the need to.
(7) Love is empathy and anxiousness to protect.... like Auntie Lian*'s husband refusal to let her take care of his grandchildren so that she will not be tired out. Not muttering against another's disability to stretch.
(8) Love is regardless of education & status.... like Dr. Tan* submitting without contempt to the directional instructions of his wife, a high school grad. Not looking at her with disdain.
(9) Love is re-assurance... like XL*'s dad giving his mom a tender touch when she gets emotional. Not suppressing emotions.
(10) Love is sharing lives... like HShan*'s husband who would not cease to tell her of the days' happenings so that she will not miss out. Not having had to be prompted relentlessly.
(11) Love is seeing another happy... like Irene*'s husband surprising her on her birthday even after being wedded for years. Not making a dread out of occassions.
(12) Love is hope... like people who dashes towards shared dreams. Not dashing them for any fear.
(13) Love is missing each other's presence... like the multiple phone calls that hong* gets. Not going on life without missing each other's absence.
(14) Love is being fiercely loyal... like PHo* when he refused to engage in ragging activities that puts him in compromising positions with the girls in the name of fun, even when his girlfriend is nowhere in sight. Not giving a chance or compromising. (yes, i am a prude)
EKH* posed queries to my expections of relationships and love when we talked yesterday... It's not that I have never gone through cogitation. I have thought through it hard too. Whenever the rational water in my brain wins over the emotional fire of the spirits and repossesses the mind, i'll start wondering if i have been building expectations on fancy, floating clouds of fluffy cotton candies...
But those I've listed are nothing out of disney channel. Not inspirations drawn from TCS, TVB, TBS, KBS, Bollywood nor Hollywood scripts. Nothing show biz. All real lives, in real inspiring love. i am not amplifying the actions per se, but considering the love behind the actions that get amplified... and I link it all to 1 Corinthians 13:3 that says "If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing."
Really, actions are superficial. I am not about to be dishonest and garb myself with deceptive nobel masks by saying that I do not care for nice gestures. In fact, I do. I do so much so that I identify them with the love that goes with it. It's like, love causes actions, but actions do not correlate to love...
Love is complete not over a gold-plated cover, but a metamorphose into what it is, exactly as written so long ago....
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
(1 Corinthians 13:4~7)
Haha.. i think i am starting to blabber again... anyway, Happy V'day, my friends. To all of you and I, may we immerse in love & bliss everyday of our lives ! I hope someone will provide my cotton candy clouds with enough aerodynamics to float.... someday....
Thomas Trahern
Love is the true means by which the world is enjoyed: our love to others, and others' love to us
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3 comments:
happy belated valentine's day.
i fall short of the 14 clauses.
i think staying alone is better for me...
for me to learn how to be a good lover
NOOOO!!!! how to learn to love while staying alone?
You can start by loving me...
*wink* hiak-hiak...
you are doing great la! You are not falling short of the nature of love. Really. Let's do a quick run down on the list.....
(1) Your love produced the gifts you painstakingly made.
(2) Your love have you whip out your "crystal ball" when I am down.
(3) Your love had your students respect you.
(4) Your love had you spending your hard-earned $$ so that your bro & sisters get to holiday.
(5) Your love had you make special drink orders for your students even when there is no obligations.
(6), (7), (9), (10) Your love was sent through the multiple MSN messages I get when I was down.
(8) Your love allowed you to click with everyone young and old.
(11) Your love had you blessing me with wishes of "辛福" on your blog.
(12) Your love hopes the best for your family... so much so that you actually buy insurance so that they will be protected.
(13) Your love sent queries when i have no updates.
(14) Your love had you remember us every festive seasons.
There you go!
So, short where?
wah... odd yen..
anyway, i forgot to pass you a x-mas/ new year gift today.. remeber you came and we had breakfast together?
nice to hear from you that i didnt fall short . . . .
thanks!!!
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