I love the 20 something young boys... and the girlfriends !

I just love the young boys.... first, there is James* who would empathise that i have been sleep-deprived, and helped to download and send me the required reading materials. Then there's SLDW*, who would believe that i am not the odd one, but the odd & better one percent... so, there is always a category of others in that same percentile who would excel with me.. the boy assuring me that I have what it takes to be above average. What a boost to my injured self-esteem...

I'll really be swooned if they are older... hiak-hiak... but I love them all the same.

I also love my girlfriends for hearing all my nonsenses. Half the time, even i myself cannot make head out of tails of... yet, they will be there when i just need to vent things out before i trip myself splitting-hair, remembering, and promising to bring me out to have fun....

Really. I have to love them. Thank God for dropping these kind angels in my path, just when i was suspecting that i have been too odd, and wondering if there is anything is wrong with me..

Still feeling a bit down, but looks like i should take on SLDW's advise to inject positivity, smile even more and soldier on. Surely, if I'd believe & hold on with my head and soul high, things will be better and i'll get to receive what i'd wish for.

HAPPY 牛 YEAR, all !
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愛與支持力量大

Extracted from ＜我報＞星期三　2009年1月21日　生活版　

生命中如果有知己給予你愛和支持, 再艱難的路也能走下去.

在象棋裡, 倅打兵, 馬吃炮或犧牲車, 為的就是要讓對方死棋, 然後得意地大喊 "將軍"!

下一盤中國象棋, 可能在兩三分鐘内分勝負, 也可能拖個一兩個小時, 還在傷腦筋. 我們的生命不也是一樣嗎? 舉棋不定, 是因為要三思而後行, 擔心走錯一不全盤皆輸.

Sis Shenton 我認為, 世事如棋局局新, 有赢就有输, 有起必有落. 重點是在输赢之前的過程中, 你得到了什麼? 把焦點放在結局, 還不如享受下棋的樂趣. 象棋裡的將, 士, 相, 馬, 車, 炮, 兵, 互相扶持, 哪怕在必要時得做出"犧牲" , 為的就是要共同打出一場勝仗.

這像不像你在生命中做重要決定時, 有一個人不論結局输赢, 都願意在你身旁鼓勵你, 扶持你, 讓你能安心完成目標呢? 誰不希望在面對生命挑戰時, 有一個可以信賴和給予全力支持的知己?

生命中互相扶持

聽過授之魚亦授之魚的故事嗎?

大海边徘徊着兩個一無所有的人. 一個好心人走過來, 分別送兩人一筐魚和一張网. 拿到魚的那人, 大吃一頓後, 又回到一無所有; 拿到网的那人, 从此靠捕魚為生, 過着安定的日子.

且慢! 結果也可能不一樣...... 倘若兩人已饥饿至极, 生命垂危, 那拿到魚的就可以馬上挨過饥饿, 再去寻找新生計; 拿到网的那人, 哪還有撒网的力氣? 只有悲慘地饿死在大海边.

既然是兩個人, 有魚又有网, 最好的办法不就是合作嗎? 先魚而後漁, 互相扶持給予愛和幫助, 有當下有未來, 還擔心什麼?

小支持, 也可以成為很大的力量! 運動員能在運動場上, 在萬眾矚目的情況下卵足全力朝目標拼搏. 除了運動員平時的鍛鍊, 這裡面, 往往都注入了堅韌無比的情感--- "愛與支持".
當他們快撐不下去的時候, 想想那最溫柔的目光, 也能夠成為最堅強的後盾. 這種愛與支持, 是不是比獎牌更美, 更動人?

Old song....

I thank You Lord, for the trials that come my way
In that way I can grow each day, As I let You lead
And I thank You Lord for the patience those trials bring
In that process of growing, I can learn to care

Chorus:
But it goes against the way I am
To put my human nature down
And let the Spirit take control of all I do
For when those trials come
My human nature shouts the thing to do
And God's soft prompting can be easily ignored.

But I thank You Lord, with each trial I feel inside
That You're there to help, lead and guide me away from wrong
For You promised, Lord, that with every testing
That Your way of escaping's easier to bear

Yes, I thank You Lord, for the victory that growing brings
In surrender of everything, life is so worthwhile
And I thank You Lord, that when everything's put in place
Out in front I can see Your faceAnd it's there You belong
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The Incongruous Human Nature

Human nature hates struggling.... and the irony is that human nature cannot sit in surrender and wait for things to just fall into place. And so, we continue to go on our strives, convinced that if we were to wrench a bit more, things will work out fine. When that happens, we will just be engrossed in one-tracked wrestles for our own way, unable to see or listen, much less think...

Over time, however, we realises that all that have been expended are foolishly wasted time and energy...

"Unless the Lord builds the house, those who build it labour in vain" ~~ Psalm 127:1 ~~

What do you do when you fall down?

Hong forwarded me a video of Nick Vujicic yesterday. The message is clear: We know that when we fall, we have to move on.... but to do so, we have to first get up & stop trying to move while still down....

Are You Going To Finish Strong - Nick Vujicic Video
http://www.metacafe.com/watch/yt-HUMtI0-cJRU/are_you_going_to_finish_strong_nick_vujicic_video

Funny how life is full of changes
Funny how friends are made from strangers
Since life will always keep us guessing
We might as well just go on BUT count our blessings
Look at the stars, And count our blessings...

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In Amour Propre

"She is very smart and I've never met a woman.... "
"She is phenomenal..."
"She has always been my biggest fan..."
"She likes the cheap dates as much as the fancy ones..."
"Baking...is one of her many many talents..."
"She loves to exercise....ok, she's not as fanatical as me yet, but..."
"She's a sucker for my smooth brand of romance..."
"My heart melts when she..."
"She's an extremely talented..."
"She is strong and tough..."
"She is very loyal..."
"she loves to cook...although our first attempt... was an abysmal failure, someday..."

Excerpt from an album, titled "Why I love my wife", put up by BL*'s hubby on FB. Don't we all wish someone would adore us like that too? ok, ok, I admit I probably don't have that many fantastic traits & talents as she does... but.... surely, i can't be so much worse off, right? (either that, or my positive traits have been so well-hidden... LOL... )

If anyone would to just melt me with a smooth romance like this..... boy.... i'm feeling ultra-imbalanced... am in need of affections!
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Disparity...

Making sense, making choice...

A must-read for all in the dating game.... http://www.davenevins.com/loveofgod/topics/more/soulmate_choice.htm

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Designless New Year: 是盼望？ 是徬徨?

As a little child, I'd look forward to mark the last page of the calendar. This page is the most exciting cos it marks the clearing of yet another brain wringing exams and one less to go... okie... that doesn't sound that exciting on hindsight... but getting through those hated exams were measureable milestones then... And so I go, looking forward to each year's end, and to proceed from level primary school, secondary school, to college, and to university - all in the pursuit to be the dough within the (hopefully) better cookie-cutter.

Yes, I admit, I was never that over-achieving aspirant who strive to be sticking out in non-conformity... although somehow, i still ended on the wrong side of the mill and for most times...

Ah well, so there we go again. 01-01. Another new year.

My friends around me are climbing milestones in their lives - chew with new baby adidas, hong with her new life to look forward to with her beng, tan tan, the manager in the making, xilin working to be crowned with the flimsy looking PhD mortar board, etc etc...

and I? I see no milestones in sight (sounds so 徬徨!)... yes.. very much like the economist's chart of today...

Anyway, to start my 01-01-09, X transmitted his devotional lesson #1 to me via MSN. Its essence being: Everything at His time.

未曾清楚神的旨意之前，不要跑得太快
恐怕你跑错路

No milestones in sight, and so be it. Dashing around for a milestone may just end up in naught... like how we sometimes take things into our own hands and think we need to act, when really we don't.... Take time to savour & enjoy each day. Keep the little anxious monkey caged. One step at a time. Surely, in every bulb, there is a flower, and every seed a promised tree awaiting to grow, that you & I cannot see.... there is just no way to force the flower out of the bulb, or the tree out of the apple seed... (that is 盼望, right?)

Ok, Ok. So, let's just pray that I will find myself in a respectable (next-stage) cookie-cutter towards a yummi-licious apple cookie, and not some lump of dough out of the mill near the trash-can....

Gosh! I must be hungry.... talking sprouting no-sense again.... and yes, there is no resolution... as usual...

Just a Happy New Year to all ! =)
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